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Challenging Scenario:
It’s Getting Hot in Here!


During a Circle discussion, the conversation turns from productive to divisive. One Circle member feels strongly about feminism and believes that if members don’t identify as feminists, they shouldn’t call themselves a Lean In member. 


What you can do

In advance: At Circle kickoff, explain that we are going to talk about some issues that are not simple. The Circle is not composed of people that think exactly like you, it’s composed of people who want to improve themselves and help others improve. We will have differences of opinion, and the best thing we can do is learn to support people even if they make different choices than we do.

As it’s happening: Allow members to make their points but step in if the conversation turns towards an attack or accusatory.

  • “This is such an important topic. I’m comfortable using the term feminist, but I know a lot of people aren’t. The great thing about Lean In is that it focuses on actions we all can take to make a difference in our lives, and doesn’t require that we identify with the term feminist or not. We are all on our journey here."